Vista Family Court this week for divorce’s Status Conference.
Oh my god. Patti Ratekin substituted for Commissioner Lowe. I wrote this before: MS turned the divorce filing around on me. I was filing against him, he cried and begged me to hold off, I did, he filed against me. I submitted 3 emails to the courts where he admitted doing this. There is nothing left for us to fight over. No one stole money from the other person, no children, drugs or crimes involved but MS hired an attorney.
His attorney sent me a “Proof of Service” by mail that I received my husband’s Income and Status Declaration (I&E) dated 7/27/11 by mail. The envelope had nothing in it and there were no other mailings. I wrote his attorney a nice certified letter/proof of signature stating that I never received an I&E dated July 27, 2011 and if I had received one, it would be a year old anyways and it would need to be a more current one. So please resend and it needs to be current.
So, at the Status Conference, Mr. N blows in 45 minutes late. We approach the tables where I am the pathetic Respondent without representation. Patti Ratekin immediately starts “mamming” me. You know, not the “polite mam” but the “scolding mam.”
Patti Ratekin ask me: Mam, did you submit an Income/Expense Declaration?
I state: No, but neither has the other side.
Ratekin: Mam, there is “Proof of Service” that you were sent one.
Me: I know. I received the “Proof of Service” but not the I&E. I immediately responded to that with a certified letter to Mr. N stating I received no such I&E and he never responded back.
Patti Ratekin (scolding): Mam, I’ve know Mr. N for 20-years as an honest man and if you are saying that he is twisting/turning things!
Me: Well if I did get it: It was supposedly dated July 27, 2011 anyways. That is a year old.
Ratekin: Mam, THAT DOESN’T MATTER!
Me: Oh. (hanging my head)
Ratekin: If you are NOT getting his things, then go pick it up at his office.
Me: That would be great. I would like to pick everything up at his office from now on.
A lot more crap went on, but will write about that in other post.
The whole fiasco ends with Mr. N running through the little wooden swinging gate and forcefully swinging it back to slam and hit me: )
Walking to my car, it dawns on me: If Mr. N sent me my husband’s Income/Expense Declaration he would have had to first submit it to our file. Wait, damn it!
I get home and call the Vista Court and ask to speak to the Supervisor of Courts. I speak to “Kim” and ask her to check if my file has my husband’s I&E in it. “Kim” gets my file from Ratekin and finds NO I&E in it. She checks the Input Computer System to see if it was dropped off and not filed yet: NO I&E Input in the computer.
I ask “Kim”: Why didn’t Ratekin look in my file for an I&E from the other party instead of scolding me and talking about knowing Mr. N for 20 years?
“Kim”: I don’t know.
Me: Ratekin was immediately showing bias and discrimination toward me when she blurted out knowing Mr. N for 20 years and basically saying that nothing I say matters. She didn’t even look into the facts…there was NO I&E ever filed by the other party.
“Kim”: Oh, we’re not allowed to discriminate and be bias.
Me THINKING: What ever…of course you were discriminating, we all discriminate. I am not only the Respondent but I am without an attorney. Sure.
Me: How old can an I&E be?
“Kim”: NO MORE than 3-months old.
Me: WTF! (did not really say that): Patti Ratekin told me a year old I&E is okay.
“Kim”: I don’t know why she told you that?
I go to Mr. N’s office as ordered by Ratekin to pick up the I&E.
I ask Mr. N’s receptionist when she mailed me the I&E.
Her response: Yesterday.
OhMiGAWD!!!! What the F@#$! (again didn’t say that, I actually said “Thank you” and walked away: )
I immediately find the contact information of The Supervisor of Family Court Judges located in San Diego.
I documented everything that happened to me, filed it with the courts, and then mailed a copy to The San Diego Supervisor of Family Court Judges!
YOU MUST STAND UP FOR YOURSELF. YOU MUST DOCUMENT EVERYTHING! DO NOT LET THESE IMBECILES GET AWAY WITH THEIR INCOMPETENCE!!!
I know it takes time. I know it is exhausting. But these people need to be held accountable! If we all stood together, these crazy people cannot maintain their power to destroy the lives of innocent people.